On “keeping up” – and why Tortoises go faster
I filmed this video while in Toronto in Canada last week, where I was attending an implementation day and a live event.
I wanted to talk to you about something that seems to be a bit of a theme recently, both among members of my own community – but it was also something that my mentor in Canada talked about because he sees it a lot too.
So I’ve created you this video to remind you that there is no such thing as trying to “keep up” when it comes to your business – in fact that sort of thinking can actually slow you down – and that it is totally ok for you to be more of a tortoise than a hare.
Watch the video below or scroll down to read the blog.
On being a Tortoise
When my mentor talked about how people often give up too soon in business because they feel they are not going “fast enough” or feel they are not “keeping up” it reminded of something that happened to me quite a few years ago, well before my current business existed.
At that point, I was very interested in online marketing and so I was doing a course on it. The teacher wanted us to see it as more of a long-term thing and not some kind of get rich quick scheme, telling us that if we wanted to build a genuinely successful business online then it was going to take time and that we would actually get there more quickly by going at a slow and steady pace – but taking small action every single day. He encouraged us to think of ourselves as tortoises – going at a slow methodical pace but knowing that we would get there in the end.
But I was so impatient in those days – I was very hard on myself and wanted to be further ahead than I was. But I could see he was making an important point. So, to remind myself, I bought myself a little soft toy of a tortoise which I kept on my desk, and all my passwords at the time had some variation of the word tortoise in them just to remind me that it was ok to take my time.
A more recent reminder
One of the things that has prompted me to talk about this today is that I recently I opened enrolment for the Business from the Heart Community membership, which closed a week ago (at the time of recording this). What was really interesting to me was that by the end of the first week we’d already had a handful of emails in from people saying things like, “I’m worried about being in this membership because I feel like I’m not keeping up” or “I feel I’m falling behind”.
Now this is particularly fascinating because it’s a membership, it’s not a course. Its absolutely built and designed to be a “go at your own pace” type of a model, to meet people wherever they’re at.
And the reason its fascinating to me is because is it brings up something that comes up for so many of us – that we’re so often naturally inclined to compare ourselves unfavourably to other people or to some vision of ourselves and where we think we should be, and find ourselves lacking.
When actually the reality is that there is nothing to keep up with – we just need to keep moving forward.
Embrace your inner tortoise
I would love to encourage you to embrace your inner tortoise. Particularly if you have life circumstances which mean that you can’t go at your business all guns blazing. And so many of us can’t – you might be a mum of young children, you might have health challenges (which was my situation when I was starting my business), the car might break down, a pet gets sick, or any of the other things that life throws at you.
Life is like this, there is no such thing as a smooth run and it can be easy to beat yourself up because you’re not where you think you should be by the time you think you should be there.
What are you comparing yourself to?
I want to encourage you not to go comparing yourself to other people who are possibly many years ahead of you in business, and perhaps have completely different life circumstances to you. Or to some ideal vision you might have built up in your mind about where you think you should be right now. Because life and business don’t really follow a lovely smooth trajectory for any of us.
When you’ve bought a course and you haven’t “kept up” with the modules week by week it’s easy to think “Well I’m not keeping up so I’m just going to give up”. I’ve found this happens with my online course and sometimes I meet people will feed that back to me: “I couldn’t keep up, so I just stopped”.
Imagine that. Deciding not to learn a valuable skill that could transform your business, all because you might take a month or two longer to learn it than someone else.
What I’d love you to do instead is to compare yourself to yourself! To look instead at where you were a month ago or a year ago. Because if you just keep moving forward at your own pace, you’ll definitely make progress towards the business that you are dreaming of. And who cares if it takes you a little bit longer – the important thing is that you get there.
My mentor was talking about this because he sees the same pattern with his students. And he shared a really useful exercise, so I want to share this with you now:
Get a big sheet of paper and draw three columns.
- In the furthest right-hand column, write a list of where you want to ideally be – where is it you’re heading? How do you want your business to look? What sort of business model will you be following? How many clients will you have? What sort of revenue have you got?
- In the middle column, write down where you are right now, listing against the same criteria that you put in the right-hand column.
- Finally, in the left-hand column, write down where you were a year ago, and notice how far you’ve come.
This allows you to acknowledge and celebrate your own progress. So often we do not celebrate where we’ve got to because we’re too busy beating ourselves up because we’re not where we think we should be yet. But where we think we should be is really just some story we’ve made up.
So I really want to encourage you to allow yourself to go at your own pace. Instead of focus on “where you are not yet” instead focus on making progress. You would be surprised at how, even if you take the smallest steps and actions, but you do it consistently every day, every week, every month, you’re going to look back a year from now and think “Wow! Just look at how far I’ve come.”
And this doesn’t have to be big action, it doesn’t have to be a huge complex activity that’s going to take a huge amount of time and energy, it can just be these small consistent steps week in week out that can build on each other.
You’re not alone
And it’s not just you that falls behind with things, I want to share an example that I hope will encourage and inspire you…
I’d been interested in a launching a membership community for a while but felt I didn’t know enough about it so about 14 months ago I bought a course on it. But at the time I bought it I was moving house, going through a website design and rebrand that required a huge amount of work, and I had quite a lot of clients going through a group programme. It was a busy time and I wasn’t able to engage in this course in the way that I would have liked – it had a Facebook group and weekly modules and Q&As. Other people were taking action and launching memberships and I wasn’t doing very much.
But I understood that I didn’t have to do everything right now. So I just did what I could when I could. Most of it well after the course had officially “finished”. And at the end of November – 7 months later – I launched my first membership to the founding members.
If instead of allowing myself to go at my own pace if I’d got half-way through that course and then said “Oh I can’t keep up with this course, everybody else is miles ahead of me so I’m just going to give up,” imagine what would have happened… I wouldn’t have the 233 members that I have today.
I already mentioned that I’m at a live event for people who want to build or launch membership sites. And there are people here who’ve got memberships of literally thousands of members. But instead of comparing myself with those who have bigger sites than me and finding myself lacking, I’m choosing to celebrate myself and the fact that I did launch. I launched it more slowly, I’ve got 233 members, but when I look at myself a year ago I didn’t have any members at all, I didn’t even have a membership community. So comparing myself to me I’ve got a lot to celebrate!
I’m celebrating the fact that I got started and I will use that to fuel me and give me momentum going forward, rather than feel like I’m lacking and falling behind.
Because the truth is that there is no such thing as falling behind, there is no such thing as keeping up. There’s just you and your individual journey and the business you want to create.
So my important message for you is to just focus on moving forward at your own pace, whatever that pace is, because that’s the only way you’re ever going to get there. If that means you’re more a tortoise than a hare, you might just get there further and faster than the hare ever does!
What about you? Does what I’ve said here resonate? Have you been slowing yourself up because you’ve got frustrated that you’re not moving faster? Do share your thoughts in the comments below – I always love to hear from you.
With Love & Gratitude,